I Escaped an Arranged Marriage Only to Be Trapped by a Married Man
I was 29 when my arranged marriage in India broke apart. The guy from the US lied about everything. He told my parents he had a full time job, an I 140, and a salary of 150k. He even showed paystubs, savings, and stocks to make it look real. Later I found out he was just on a contract job making 120k with no security. On top of that he asked for dowry and wanted a big wedding when I only wanted a simple temple marriage. I refused, broke the engagement, and came to the US for my masters. I wanted to prove myself and build a life on my own.
During my masters I met another guy through matrimony. He came to Utah to see me and I found him very attractive. I liked him and I made the first move. I kissed him and that night we ended up sleeping together. After that it was the time of my semester exams, as I ignored him and we lost touch. Later when I finished my masters and moved to Austin for my job, I saw his WhatsApp story and reached out. We met again but he told me he was still talking to other matches. I told him to stop searching and be with me. I kissed him again and we became physical a few more times. I thought it would make him stay, but he ghosted me, ignored my calls, and stopped responding me
After months of no contact, I found out through friends that he was already married. but I still messaged him from another number. When I asked. he lied and said he was only getting engaged. Instead of arguing, I asked him to come to Saint Louis, saying I had events and wanted company, and he came. I knew he was married, but when we met the old feelings came back, we kissed, held each other, and had sex. After that, I felt even more broken because I knew I could never really have him.
Now I am close to 32, stuck with trauma, pain and questions. I cannot get over him and I do not know how to let go. A part of me keeps thinking if I should just ruin his marriage so he will come back to me. because I still love him even after all of this. I feel lost and weak. Please help me out. What should I do?
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During my masters I met another guy through matrimony. He came to Utah to see me and I found him very attractive. I liked him and I made the first move. I kissed him and that night we ended up sleeping together. After that it was the time of my semester exams, as I ignored him and we lost touch. Later when I finished my masters and moved to Austin for my job, I saw his WhatsApp story and reached out. We met again but he told me he was still talking to other matches. I told him to stop searching and be with me. I kissed him again and we became physical a few more times. I thought it would make him stay, but he ghosted me, ignored my calls, and stopped responding me
After months of no contact, I found out through friends that he was already married. but I still messaged him from another number. When I asked. he lied and said he was only getting engaged. Instead of arguing, I asked him to come to Saint Louis, saying I had events and wanted company, and he came. I knew he was married, but when we met the old feelings came back, we kissed, held each other, and had sex. After that, I felt even more broken because I knew I could never really have him.
Now I am close to 32, stuck with trauma, pain and questions. I cannot get over him and I do not know how to let go. A part of me keeps thinking if I should just ruin his marriage so he will come back to me. because I still love him even after all of this. I feel lost and weak. Please help me out. What should I do?
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